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I had a patient in the clinic who really did not want an abortion but who had no resources to cover the costs of prenatal care or childbirth. She was single and without insurance coverage but made just enough money to be ineligible for state assistance. She already had outstanding bills at the hospital and with the local ob-gyn practice. No doctor would see her without payment up front.

We were willing to do the abortion for a reduced rate or for free if necessary. But she really didn’t want an abortion. Once I understood her situation, I went to the phone and called the local ‘crisis pregnancy center.’

"Hello, this is Dr. Wicklund."

Dead silence. I might as well have said I was Satan.

"Hello?" I said again. "This is Dr. Wicklund."

"Hello," very tentatively, followed by another long silence.

"I need help with a patient," I said. She came to me for an abortion, but really doesn’t want one. What she really needs is someone to do her prenatal care and birth for free."

"What do you expect us to do?"

I let that hang for a minute.

This Common Secret, Susan Wicklund

Crisis Pregnancy Centers often disguise themselves as medical facilities, with advertisements offering “help” with an unplanned pregnancy. Their main goal is to keep the pregnant person from having an abortion at all costs. Usually, all they’ll give you is a free pregnancy test, some baby clothes, and maybe a box of diapers.

The patient referred to in the quote was given free prenatal care and did not have to pay the financial cost of childbirth by a local anti-choice doctor. She would often stop by Dr. Wicklund’s office to let her know how she was doing:

"He (the doctor) always moans and groans about being tricked into [doing this]," she says. "Then he goes off on these tirades against abortion."

(via provoice)

"This Common Secret" is such a phenomenal book. And yeah, crisis pregnancy centers are generally evil, so there’s that.

(via thebicker)

"I let that hang for a minute." Yeah.

Huh. Apparently C is the least sexualized cup size. I did an unfiltered image search for it because I was trying to figure out something about how bras work , and was rather surprised after a moment’s thought that it had actually helped me with that goal.

So I checked… The first 40 “c cup” results were bras, but yep- “a cup”, “b cup” and “d cup” were all bared breasts. (Mostly with pornographic presentation, a few more “anatomical” looking shots. “A cup” skewed hardcore.)

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coelasquid:

It’s going to be interesting to see what happens when Colbert replaces Letterman, it’s such a different format and audience than the Colbert report. It kind of feels like a weird move for him to make, because the audience of young, internet-saavy, predominantly college-age viewers that show up…

Personally, I suspect that a big part of it is specifically wanting to get out of the character… It’s probably pretty draining to be the opposite of who you really are near every second in public.

Anonymous asked: I'm just wondering, why do you give so much attention to mean people? No matter how well you explain yourself to them, they will never learn or stop being mean. Just don't publish their messages and ignore them. I think you're awesome, but giving in to trolls is your only flaw.

thefrogman:

I turn a negative into a positive. I take their comments, which are very similar to comments people get in real life from family, co-workers, and strangers, and I respond with education. I give people words and tools to help them respond to those comments. I show people who are ill that they are not alone in this. And to those who don’t know this happens, I shine a spotlight on these issues. 

I don’t care about the troll. I don’t care if I change their mind. I don’t write my explanations for them. The sass.. that is for them. They get all the sass.

The price of being popular on the internet, no matter what, is that people are going to send you hate. There is no way to stop it. I had to find a way to cope with that. Turning their hate into something useful allows me to mentally handle the hate I receive. It is my way of dealing with it.

And it is appreciated.